Zami: A New Spelling of My Name - Audre Lorde
A life in loves (the early part of a life, anyway): it's the author's process of self-discovery but structured by the succession of women she loved and lost, each of whom is a vivid character in her own right. Though Audre Lorde learned something from these women, they are autonomous, and that's what I liked the best about this book. That, and its sensuous erotic character (erotic even in the parts that are not about lovemaking). What a way to live. Never less than fully involving.